The devastating effects of rape.

The effects that rape has on a child; male or female, has lifelong devastating consequences. The weight and the devastating effects of such trauma on the mind of a child is greatly down played. This is so because a child lacks the experience, the command of language and the overall ability to adequately express with words, that which they are true feelings and experiencing. They cannot give a comparative analysis of their life or the way they felt before the assault and their life and how their life have change after the assault. As a result, of the trauma they were force to meet head on and experience.

When a child is raped, because those children are severely under developed in all of their faculties, which includes but are not limited to their mental, physical, emotional, and social faculties; at that point of their great trauma, a lot of things happens, the first things is, those child victims are knocked off course with their general development, the trauma of their experience cause all of their faculties to be tossed and scrambled, creating a barrage of confusion that is worse than a woman in menopause.

Because of their immaturity and a limited reasoning ability, their low level of understand of the workings of the human person and their place and their functions within the community; as well as, their limited understanding of the normal and reasonable expectations of the community has of them as well The understanding of the things they would have later get a full grasp of are flipped upside down, the things they would have learn normally; with the progression of time, become all disorganized, the normal things seems out of place, and their ability to comprehend simple things are scramble.

Their security was shattered, and the security and the confidence they once feel, being in the arms or the presence of their parents is shattered. Who can protect me if my parents could not? Is the question that mostly occupies their minds. Their insecurity and the disgusting feelings of being violently and prematurely violated leaves them with an overwhelming feeling give them a hint that something is not normal with them and their experience. They always question themselves, wondering: why they are not normal? Why they are so different than most people? This coupled with the persistent feel of powerlessness that is the residue of the traumatic experience they were forced to encounter.

The truth is they are not normal because of their experience; and the quicker we accept and acknowledge this simple fact, is the faster we are able to help them to understand the travesty that was inflicted upon them. The simple fact is; their experience is not a normal experience; if it was, then it would not have been a crime and the effects would not have been so devastating. The mental, social, emotional and physical pain they experience because of their experience is not normal. You don’t see normal rational or other parents going out there organizing for their juvenile sons and daughters to be raped. One will have to asked yourself this simple question. Why the normal and relational parents are not out and organization for their juvenile sons and daughters to be raped?

If you have answer this question, then you would have answer the question as it relates to the normalcy of their rape victim life. In the life of a child victim this emotional and other trauma becomes their normal; but it is still not normal. In other word; if something is all a person know it does not mean that thing is normal; and it is doing a travesty of common sense, intelligence, good judgement, and an injustice for any one, institution and or organization to lead these victims to believe that they are normal; It may sound good to say it, it may make us feel better about our self; but how does it make that victim feel.

I declare here it is not a good it is not true and it is not right; for the world to tell them that they are normal, when they know from examining the community and from the way they feel they know they are not. For them to be normal, then their experience (Rape as a child) has to also be normal, the confusion they experience have to be normal. It is true they look normal, but normality does not have anything to do with looks and or appearance, it has to do with the functionality.

The same thing happens to an adult. However, at this stage, they learned and understand all of the things that was mentioned above. Now with their faculties scrambled and tossed, and the confusion that ensued they are unable to reconcile that which they have learn and understood to be normal prior to their violations to the way they now feel. To understand the verbal explanation of this from an adult one would have had to walk in their shoes.